10 Reasons...

... Why Guys Are Lucky To Have Us.

10. Because we will fight to the death (almost) to protect what's ours.
9. Because we will champion their causes, ambitions and dreams no matter how formidable far fetched.
8. Because we put up with their annoying, clingy, and territorial mothers.
7. Because we tell them their ideas are smart even when they aren't.
6. Because we actually thrive off taking care of and doing special things for them.. even though we might say otherwise.
5. Because we forgive a lot of things we shouldn't.
4. Because we'll suffer through a brazillian wax if it means a smile on his birthday.
3. Because we'll ditch our friends for the 100th time in a row if he asks us to.
2. Because even though we're the smarter and stronger sex, we play dumb and helpless to make him feel important.
1. Because we'll be his little sex kitten after a long days work even when we're bloated, stressed, and tired from one ourselves.

You Tell Me...

Most times, all it takes to let a guy know you're interested is a smile (of course, just being a girl means you're already 75% of the way there, send the rest in his direction and your job is done.) But there are times when a smile isn't enough, and, according to my poll, a lot of the time most of you are too chicken to make that first move on your own. So you tell me: Whats the best way to pick-up a guy?

(This one is for you too boys, I'm sure your helpful hints will be appreciated).

What Ever Happened To...

Getting to know someone over dinner/coffee/the phone?

It seems like every time I hear about people meeting each other and exchanging info that 'info' consists of Facebook, MySpace and whatever other profiles and addresses people collect these days. Does anyone else long for the days where getting to know each other didn't involve some form of internet stalking, I mean "friendship", but rather actual face-to-face (or at least phone-to-phone) communication? Where's the fun in hanging out and getting to know someone when you're already following them and their mother on Twitter?

Call me old fashioned but I miss the days of actual courtship.

It's Only A State Of Mind...

We girls have it pretty easy when it comes to dating. No think about it, its true. Yes there are the occasional losers, freaks and psycho-stalkers, but overall, the stakes are in our favor. We don't have to worry about the perfect opener, we don't have to stress about the first call or date plans, we're not expected to pay for anything, and we don't really even have to be concerned with trying to impress our date... that's pretty much all on him. Don't get me wrong, being wooed is fun and all, but sometimes I wonder if not having to deal with the hard stuff really benefits us in the end?

Take me for example, I was 21, never been kissed, and totally bummed about my "relationship status" on FB. While all my girlfriends were either dating or had boyfriends, the closest thing I had to a guy in my life was my weekly reunion with the adorable Seth Cohen. No one was chasing me, therefore I was single. And miserable. Until one day, when I decided to do something about it. I asked a guy out (gasp!). It was pretty drastic - considering I had never really even talked to a guy before - but it needed to be done. He was really cute, skinny, and slightly nerdy (like Seth!). It took three weeks to do it, slowly inching closer to him class, row by row, seat by seat, but finally I reached him. After unnecessarily asking to copy the homework questions from his sheet - and while making sure he wasn't looking - I hastily jotted down a quick hello, my name and number, and folded it up with a silent prayer to God asking that he not open and read it right there in front of me. He didn't. A week later he called me, and we sort of dated, briefly.

Yes it kind of backfired as he turned out to be an ass, yes I regret handling the relationship/fling/friendship with benefits (whatever) the way I did, and yes I made a complete ass out of myself for this guy numerous times. But you know what else? I'm also a smarter, more confident, and happier person for it. The dirty work paid off, and not just in the form of a man. I got what I wanted because I made it happen. I ditched those stupid dating rules that told me to wait for him to come to me because I realized that, at the end of the day, that option leaves my entire dating experience in the hands of the next guy who sees me. Now I don't know about you, but I want a say in who's going to woo me.

I'm not trying to put myself on a pedestal here, I'm just trying to illustrate my point, which is that, at some point, you're going to have to go out on a limb because that's where all the fruit is. If you want to wait for it to drop down to you then that's your prerogative, but you might be there for a while, and while you are, don't get mad if some other little squirrels go and snatch up all the good berries for themselves.

What Ever Happened To...

'The College Girl' ?

She seems to have devolved in last 10 or so years. I remember when 'college girls' were smart, sexy, sophisticated, sweater wearing types that guys drooled over (Felicity anyone?). Now they're just a bunch of immature, over-tanned, boob grabbing/flashing bimbos that guys prey upon.

It's time to make intelligence cool again, girls.

Words of Wisdom...

"Just because you're in love with someone doesn't mean you have any business being in a relationship with them."

-Anonymous

Dear Diary...

Sometimes, I like to flirt with guys I'm not even interested in just to see if I can hook 'em.

F.Y.I.

Ok guys, I know that those first few dates are always a little nerve-racking and you don't want to mess up or overstep your boundaries, but there is one thing that you absolutely CANNOT do when time comes for that first kiss: ask her for it.

That first kiss says "we're on the same page, we're feeling the same thing" - flake out, and inside she thinks "Ugghhhhh, pussy". So whether it's just a sweet peck, or an all out face-grabbing smooch, in that moment you need to step up, take that gamble, and be the man she wants you to be, no questions. Trust me, it will pay off.

But, Nice Guys Don't Finish Last...

So, my boss showed me something today that left me a little... peeved. It's a letter, to women, from a guy supposedly answering the age old "what happened to all the nice guys" question once and for all. (http://www.girlsaskguys.com/Articles/Dating/Where-did-all-the-nice-guys-go.html)

And I'll admit, there is some truth to what he's saying as all too often we girls do totally bypass the great guy "friend" who's always there for us in choice of the asshole who will most assuredly break our hearts. But to blame the extinction of the "Nice Guy" solely on us?! I find that a tad extreme, and bitter, to say the least. His claim is that it is our lack of appreciation for "Nice Guy's" actions which motivates him to turn into the "Asshole" we like to date. "Nice Guy" becomes "Asshole" because we make jokes at his expense, excuses for why we can't date him, and use him to get the emotional intimacy that's lacking in our relationship with "Asshole" and avoid having to reciprocate with physical intimacy (pig).

Now, I don't know about you, but to me, this argument is just plain ignorant... not to mention a little juvenile. This guy clearly got burned by one girl, badly, and is now making a hugely incorrect and oversized generalization about the rest of us. What really gets me is that even if this were a fair statement, do guys not do this as well? Do they not go for the hot, ditsy, kinky anno with the huge tits and a fake hair and make all the rest of us feel pressured to fit that mold in order to get some attention? I mean, I don't know one girl who hasn't compromised some aspect of herself at one point or another for a guy; it goes both ways. And did this guy ever stop to think that maybe he's after the wrong type of girl if she can't appreciate how good of a guy he is? At a certain point, like after high school, we girls figure out what's good for us and start seeking out "Nice Guy" precisely for the reason that he is not "Asshole". We can't be held responsible for the fact that this guy let a girl who never reached this stage of development abuse his feelings, that's his own fault. And even if she did reach that stage, did he ever stop to think that maybe she just didn't bother with him for the same reason that guys choose not to bother with certain girls? We all - women and men - want to be with a confident, vocal, and take charge kind of partner, if you happen to have been rejected by someone it wasn't because you were too "nice" - everyone likes nice - it's because you're a boring, insecure, push-over too sacred to stand up for your own feelings. Who wants that?

I dunno, to me this just sounds like a whinny high school kid with a huge chip on his shoulder. Don't lash out at women just because you got you're heart broken, grow up, learn from your mistakes, and move on, it's what normal people do when they run into assholes like you.

Rant!

So I was watching 'The Real World' last night - don't ask me why, I just was ok? - and I saw this girl do the lamest, most embarrassing thing that a girl in her 20s (or older for that matter) can do to herself when in pursuit of a guy. You see, one of the girls on the show is in love with this guy she's met at work - who happens to have no interest in her whatsoever by the way, but that's besides the point. Anyway, she's desperate to get this guy to be her loverman, and as a result, comes up with a "plan" to make sure her wish comes true. That 'plan' is to invite him over, tell him he's getting a 'surprise' from her, but that he has to wait until later that night, after they all go out the club, to get it (side-eye). Once at the club, she slips him a note - as in a piece of paper with writing on it - promising him SEX if he goes home with her that night.

Now, we've all done stupid things to get a guy before, but this wrong for so many reasons I don't even know where to begin. First of all, notes are just so ...old school (not to mention highschool). It's bad enough that writing on a piece of paper makes you look twelve, as in "I'm a good girl trying to act bad, but I'm still too shy to say 'I like you' to your face so I'm going to do it behind the safety of this pen and paper so that I can run away after I give it to you and avoid seeing your surprise/disgust/pervy grin when you read it", but I mean - excusing the utter stupidity of this move for a just a moment - it's 2009 hun! That's what text messages are for! And what the heck did she write it on anyway?!? A napkin from the bar makes her look cheap, and anything that looks like it might have been pre-planned makes her look even more desperate than she clearly already is! Also, what kind of woman who is worth anything gives away sex like that? Speedrail sex is more like a warning sign rather than an attraction for guys: there must be something wrong with your goodies if you're giving them away for free. You should have to be fending off men left and right for that stuff, he is supposed to have to compete for it. A woman who can afford to advertise herself in this way has either too much drama goiong on or is too cheap to be taken on seriously. And what happened to 'the chase'? The best part of dating for both sexes is that challenge, and anticipation and excitement of that moment when you'll finally come together (no pun intended), take that away and suddenly the prize becomes tangible, easy, and to be honest, a little boring. He wants to work for it hun, so let himmmm.

I feel like I could go on forever with reasons why this is such a WRONG move, but I won't, because I think you get it. The point is, you're a self-respecting, smart, gorgeous woman, and any guy who is worth your time won't be impressed by this, just like this guy on the show wasn't. That's right, he rejected her free sex coupon! That says a lot about the kind of guy he is, and the kind of girl she is. In fact, it says it all.

Ps. Emphasis on the 'any guy who is worth your time' part, that's a key point. A lot of guys welcome this kind of behaviour in girls, but they're not the kind of guys you want, they're the kind who wear popped collars and Chinese writing tattoos who would totally sleep with their really hot, slightly underage cousin if it was legal.)